ひとり遊びを楽しむ
ずっと前に、美智子様が浩宮様が幼いころ、ひとり遊びができるよう時間を与えていたことをテレビか新聞かで見聞きしたことがあった。そのときはとても不思議だった。ひとり遊び？幼児にわざわざさせるほど重要なことなのだろうか？
今はその意味がわかる。結局人生はひとりで生きていかねばならない。ひとりで問題に直面し、ひとりで解決しなければならない場面は突発的に起こる。もちろん、まわりとできるだけ連携して対応できるよう働きかけはする。しかし、いつも人がヘルプを出してくれたり、なぐさめてくれたりすることは不可能だ。そのとき、ひとりで踏ん張れる気力を養うことは、自身の気持ちの安定のために重要だ。
何でもそうだが、ひとりでいることのメリットはある。ひとりでいることのデメリットが多くフォーカスされて、周りの眼が気になりひとりでいられないという二次的障害も起こってくる。だからこそ、自身のバランスを崩さないように、ひとりの、孤独との付き合い方を学ぶことは重要だ。
ひとりでいること、ひとりで遊ぶことの利点に注意を向けたい。ひとり遊びを楽しみ、自身をしっかり信頼する、できることを発見できることは嬉しいことだ。
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Enjoying Being By Myself
A long time ago, I watched the TV in which the empress Michiko had encouraged her prince Hironomiya to play by himself when he was a child. The sounds struck me a little bit at that moment. Encouraging a little child to be by himself? Now I understand what's that meaning.
We naturally want to be with people many times. Being in a group makes us a sense of safety unintentionally and we understand the reason because many animals do so in nature. Instinct teaches us how to protect ourselves. In addition, being alone is regarded as a person who doesn't have friends and family members due to a problem of him/herself. Others tend to speak ill of him/her about one's personality problems etc. One wants to avoid such evaluation and if can't do it, one starts feeling inferior. What's more, it is dependence. The thoughts of the individual is "I can't do anything without others". The fact is, yes you can. However, you don't believe in yourself and need others' help.
You can believe in yourself. You can solve many problems by yourself. You can stay alone and enjoy it. Therefore, you can enjoy being by yourself. There are many benefits when being alone.
You can be with others to do with obstacles in your life sometimes, but keep in mind, not all the time. Everyone carry on their lives with many efforts so even you want to depend on others, they don't have capacities to be with you many time. Face your problem on your own. Never mind mistakes.
Additionally, there is an advantage of it. Everything has an advantage and disadvantage. You thing and do along what you want. You don't need be interrupted by others when carrying on your plan.
Enjoying being by yourself. You are the person who you most enjoy with.
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